Dating Tips for the Springtime!

By RoyalBeautyV

BeautyIntoxicated.com © 

May 13, 2013

Springtime Dating is Here!

Spring is like a whole seasonal holiday! An entire 3months of fun and beautiful weather. Whether you are married, in a relationship, single or playing the field…this time of year is the best time to get out and enjoy each other! Beauty Intoxicated has 10 great ideas that you and your boo should use to have a romantic date together!  

1. Plant a Garden! Have you ever wanted to start a garden full of veggies or flowers? Turn it into an Enjoyable date! It's truly a calming but fun activity. It's a great way to just engage in something different. It opens up dialogue for a wonderful evening ahead.

2. Play an outdoor game: Softball, Volleyball…any activity that will get the heart pumping! You can even visit the pool together which always works out to be very romantic. It's all about laughter and being able to enjoy every smile and every moment with that special person. 

3. Long walks. Walks on the beach or Walks through the park: According to the NYTimes, nothing eases the brain from fatigue like a long walk through the park, paired up with a date and you have a recipe for romance. It is scientifically proven that people who take advantage of strolls through leafy parks have a lower levels of stress hormones in their bodies. Enjoy this stress-less time with a date!

4. Bike rides or ride a trail on a ATV: A fun ride through the city or cruising the beach boardwalk on bikes with the boo is also a great way to enjoy some time together!

5. Boat ride: Rides on the water are very enjoyable as you take in the views of the city skyline. You have an option for fine dining, live music and dancing right underneath the beautiful stars! 

6. Picnic in the Park: Prepping and packing for a picnic date is a great bonding expierence. Sharing a meal, a few smooches and a chilled bottle of wine is what's on the menu! Engage in a shoulder and foot massage to prolong the romance and you can even bring along travel candles for your evening affair. 

7. Visit the Zoo: Pictures, ice-cream and a great sense of humor are the only things needed to turn this youthful trip into a springtime date. Don't forget to stop pass the souvenir shop for a few keepsakes. 

8. Downtown Shopping: The best way to make this an enjoyable expierence for the both of you is to pick a place to spend that you both will enjoy. Visit small shops and boutiques. The idea is to make it intimate so refrain from malls or areas where there may be large crowds. Antique shops are great places to enjoy a little time and may be even a few laughs. 

9. Daytime Dating. Visit a festival: There are plenty of festivals that you may attend together in the springtime. Music festivals, wine or cultural festivals have become hot spots for couples.  

10. BBQ together: Diner for two prepared by you two! Enjoy your own patio, and prep some food to grill together! Break out the portable fire pit for added ambiance. Wrap some party lights around a little tree or on your patio. A few of your favorite drinks and some soft music will seal the deal. 

Enjoy these Springtime date ideas from Beauty Intoxicated! and we want to hear from you!

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Jada Pinkett Smith Talks about Open Marriage Rumors

By RoyalBeautyV
BeautyIntoxicated.com © 
April 24, 2013

In case you have been under a rock lately, the lovely Jada Pinkett Smith has been back in the news addressing allegations concerning the details of her 15 year marriage.

It’s been rumored that Jada and her handsome spouse Will share an “open” relationship. An “open” relationship is one without boundaries where the parties involved are free to step outside their union and entertain other people.

First of all Ms. RoyalBeautyV says that the parameters of “any” relationship outside of your own AINT YA DAMN BUSINESS ANYWAY! I don’t care if the relationship is wide open, closed, ajar, or cracked; if you are not contributing to nale bill (yes nale, translation = not one damn thing) under their roof then your opinion really doesn’t matter. If you are a person that always makes it a point to voice your opinion like it matters…it’s simple, please stop lol. Jada and Will are rich, happy, and successful and they are NOT losing sleep behind public opinion lol.

A few weeks ago The Huffingtion Post addressed the revolving rumors about the pair having an open marriage. Jada told the site her husband…

“is his own man” and “can do whatever” he wants. I always told Will, you can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be OK."

Her comments went viral and the very next week via her FB page Jada re-addressed her statements

"Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship ... this means we have a GROWN one”.

Well there you have it folks! You heard it from the horse’s mouth. I respect Ms. Smith…she is her OWN woman and embodies the essences of individuality. What you chose to do in YOUR relationship doesn’t have to be validated by anyone, your happiness depends on you. However you and your mate chose to co-exist is YOUR business. 

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The Aries

By RoyalBeautyV  
BeautyIntoxicated.com ©   
April 5, 2013

Do you know an Aries! If not, well now you do! I'm such a full-blown Aries and I love it! Need to know how to deal with the Aries in your life? Read up on our character traits below. You have got to love us, you really have no choice because we will fight you if you don't LOL. 
Hail to the almighty God of War: The Mighty Aries!

Aries and Independence:

Aries personalities are independent. Being the first of the zodiac signs, they venture out and are go-getters, often leading the way. Their upbeat and magnetic personality often entices others to follow their lead because Aries personalities bring excitement into others lives.

Aries and Friendship:

Aries are good friends, they always look out for their friends with caring and generosity and will protect them should the need arise and encourage them with their natural optimism. If confronted, Aries can turn to be quite childish, they will fight back with their agressive nature and are known to have temper tantrums should they not get their way.

Aries and Business:

Aries are activists. If a business idea comes their way, they tend to plunge right in. Aries are more then willing to take a gamble and follow their dreams and goals. However, if success is not immediate, they tend to lose interest and give up easily. Aries are notorious for not finishing what they have begun. This is due to the low tolerance for boredom and lack of patience. If the excitement is gone from their business idea, they go off and search for it elsewhere.

Aries Temperament:

Independence is key to Aries astrology, they do not like to take orders from others and enjoy getting their way. They can get childish or moody should they be given orders that they do not like. Aries easily take offense to comments made. Aries are self-involved and can be self-centered, if they do not pay attention to the feelings of others, Aries can easily become spoiled and resented by others. In order to get their way, Aries will tell a lie if it seems advantageous to do so. They are however, not very good liars and other people can usually see through them.

Aries Deep Inside:

Underneath the strong, independent surface may lie insecurity. This is due to the intense drive to succeed and Aries put too much pressure on themselves, thus resulting in self-doubt however, the natural optimism and enthusiasm overtakes this and the underlying insecurity may never be known to others.

Aries in a Nutshell:

Aries is the first of the zodiac signs. Aries is the sign of the self, people born under this sign strongly project their personalities onto others and can be very self-oriented. Aries tend to venture out into the world and leave impressions on others that they are exciting, vibrant and talkative. Aries tend to live adventurous lives and like to be the center of attention, but rightly so since they are natural, confident leaders. Aries are enthusiastic about their goals and enjoy the thrill of the hunt, "wanting is always better then getting" is a good way to sum it up. Aries are very impulsive and usually do not think before they act - or speak. Too often Aries will say whatever pops into their head and usually end up regretting it later!


Welp that's a brief description LOL!! Start here in getting to know us at least!! Enjoy our Season! We will!

article courtesy of http://zodiac-signs-astrology.com/zodiac-signs/aries.htm

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Why are People So Concerned about the details in the lives of Others Around Them?

By RoyalBeautyV

BeautyIntoxicated.com

© February 27, 2013

What's your concern?

They say it is human nature to watch those around us, and pay attention to what folks are doing but where is 

the line drawn?

I follow quite a few of my favorite celebs on Instagram

and I become so appalled at the things people chose to say on these celebs pictures. People can be so cruel, evil and nasty. I just don't understand how people can be so concerned about the details in the lives of others around them and I will NEVER understand why anyone would care about what's going on in the lives of people they never met!

Now please don't get me confused... I'm not saying you are not suppose to care about "people", I'm simply saying "if you don't have anything nice to say shut your mouth, stop bumping your gums and kill the gossip". Really….What is your concern?? 

This topic hit home for me a few days ago when a friend of mine overheard a group of gossiping woman having a full fledge conversation in the middle of a restaraunt about me, my husband and details surrounding the tough times in our marriage. Again I ask…what's YOUR concern? 

When incidents like this happen it's particularly in small towns and happens to people that are well known, it is a form of entertainment. There isn't much else happening, so spectators chose to sit back and chit chat about people directly or indirectly around them. I used to get offended by things of this nature but I married a successful well known man so it comes with the territory and is to be expected. To say that it doesn't bother me "at all" is a lie but you can bet that I don't lose any sleep over it nor do I return the favor because other people's business is of NO concern of mine.

Anywho as always, any details that I want to share, you can rest assure that they will come out of my own mouth and I'm happy and so excited to share with you all that my husband and I are officially back together and more in-Love than ever before! It's amazing the things that a marriage will be tested on but I'm thankful that God saw fit to have us prevail. My husband is the best man I've ever known and I'm not crazy enough to let him slip away forever. THAT'S MY LOVE!!!!!!

If you want to be concerned, concern yourself with my happiness!

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New Year!

Happy New Years!

I am one person that is glad to see 2012 go!!! It was a rough one for me but I'm done dwelling on it and I'm looking forward to a beautiful beginning in 2013. Life is what we make it so please understand that my goal is to be a better person and make this one less-stressful and more fulfilling.

*sigh*

I was numb to a lot of things last year, this year I won't be so removed from my emotions or my ability. I will Love more, Care more, Appreciate more, Give more, LIVE more. It's my Comeback Season.

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Love Notes

"Only a true Love can forgive.
Only a true Love can heal.

A Love with no Limits
is a Love that will last for years"


~RoyalBeautyV 

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How to Keep it "New"

(From Me & my boo)
In relationships, that "just met you", "New", "let me get to know you" feeling is so warm and exciting.

As the relationship begins to grow and mature and you both begin to get used to each other it's important to maintain that "new-ness".

Man's Perspective: 
-Its vital to keep things spontaneous for as long as you both are together, the life of the relationship
-Both parties need to have the "want & will" to keep things fresh
-Surprise your woman with some "just Because" gestures thats totally unexpected
-Give your woman your undivided attention
-Sex!! Sex your woman any time of day, no hour is off limits. Grab a nipple err now and then.. it's healthy for you both!! TRUST ME!!!
-Tell your woman how you feel about her at all times. She will thank you for it LATER!!'
-Keep your friends out of your relationship. You should NEVER let your friend/homie or family dictate how you should be treating your woman.
-Finally, for your relationship to remain "new" it's important for you both to have the same mentality, if you are not in the same mental-space you will not keep things "fresh".


Woman's Perspective:
-Keeping your man's attention is important. The things you did to get him are the same things you need to do to keep him
-Maintaing your own Swagg is important. You can't get too comfortable that you forget to take care of yourself. You have to be at your best, every time you hit the door! You are a representation of him and he should be proud and excited to show off his girl.
-Keep it classy. No good man wants a woman that's showing his isssh off to every other man in the streets. If you are showing off everything that should be kept to the imagination then other man are constantly going to try you and your man is eventually going to become aggravated with that.  
 -Fall back and let your man BE A MAN!! If you are not messing with a weak man then let him wear the pants and make decisions for you and the relationship. If you find yourself always having to bare the weight of tough decisions then you are probably dealing with a man who is a bit weaker than you. That is annoying and you will eventually get tired of it.
-Never stop Dating! Dress up and go out to nice places together. Hold hands, flirt, play footsie, feed each other...just have fun together.
-Take care of your man's needs. When you are into a man, you want to do everything under the sun to please him. Always continue to do that.
-Finally, contribute to building a better life for the both of you. Two incomes is always better than one and if you are doing as just as much financially for the relationship than he is then you two will grow that much faster. Becoming 100% dependent on a man can land you in a dangerous position. Don't do that to yourself.

In conclusion, you can be with a man for 10+ years and it still feels NEW. It's up to you both to maintain the new-ness. It's such an awesome feeling and you really never have to let it go.

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Two Can Play That Game

Let's Play!! What do you and your boo do when there's nothing left to?

Have you ever had a moment where you wanted to text your boo but you really don't have have a damn thing to say? LOL. When there's a awkward silence and there's nothing to say...how to you start a conversation?
Nothing is more annoying than a person who doesn't know how to engage in some good convo. A dry personality is a recipe for an even drier relationship.

Here's the Solution ( I do this a lot with my boo)
A FUN and SEXY thing that you can do with your partner is play LOVE GAMES.
What is that? It's simple--You text a romantic/sexy phrase about how you feel and tell your boo to finish the phrase with the way he/she feels about you.
Eventually the sexii convo will turn poetic and you can be very creative at the end and print and frame your new poetry. Now please be aware because the convo can get very erotic QUICK depending on your mate LOL. This LOVE GAME completely depends on your current mood or feelings. I'm sometimes poetic. I'm sometimes lyrical. I'm sometimes passionately spiritual. Whatever your mood this is just ALL IN FUN:) Here's an example below!

YOU: "Damn Bae, my knees are shaking..."

YOUR BOO: "Girl my heart is racing..."

YOU: "Im having sexual thoughts of you..."

YOUR BOO: "Damn my Queen I love the things you do..."

YOU: "I do the things I do for you...."

YOUR BOO: "And that's why I can't get enough of you"

YOU: "You make me wanna....."

YOUR BOO: "And you know I'm gonna...."

YOU: "Give it to you right..."

YOUR BOO: "As long as it's all night..."

OK OK OK OK!!! You get the point!!! Go and play this LOVE GAME with your boo!! When you print and frame it, send me an email so I can share with the world! Have fun!!

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Foods to Spike your Sex Drive

So we are what we eat right?

Did you know that there is a plethora of foods that influence your sex drive? Who knew! Don't act like you can't use a little help in the sexual energy department every now and then and even if you don't, still follow this list to have sexual energy to spare!
Next time you are in the supermarket be sure to pick up a few extra servings of these foods to Spike your sex drive...

First up is the almighty Avocado! The Mesoamerican people from the 16th century called the Avocado tree the testicle tree! LOL! What??? In 21st century terms we would call this the "ball tree" lol! The avocado is classified as a plant and kinda resembles 'this' male body part.
Avocado- increase males hormone production and regulates the woman's thyroid glands while giving you more energy

Almonds-said to arouse passion in women

Chocolate- contains phenylethylamine. What the hell is that big word? It's a chemical believed to produce the feeling of "being in love." Ever wonder why men give women chocolates on special occasions lol, they ain't crazy! They know!

Bananas- believed to increase the desire for sexual activity in women

Raw oysters- raises sperm levels and testosterone production

Cherries- elevates arousal levels

Red Wine-improves circulation and blood flow

Fresh Figs- improves stamina

Garlic (with a side of breath mints LOL)- increases blood flow to sexual organs

Add these items to your grocery list and fill up the cart!!!! Spike your Sex Drive!

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Turn Him On

Discrete is oh so Sexy!

It's nothing like subtle intimate gestures from your partner to get your attention and put a naughty little grin on your face. Sometimes a little goes a long ways.

Today I'm going to give you 5 subtle sexy tips to "Turn Him On"

For me it starts with the Eyes:
Intense eyes will start a fight lol. When words won't do, the eyes will always tell the story. To set the mood between you and your boo just give his ass "that look" that you know he can't resist. With enough confidence behind "that look" you will never have to say a damn thing because the boo knows exactly what's about to go down when you serve him those eyes honey! If you are feeling a little more frisky throw a little lip action in it too! Lol! Softly bit your bottom lip, lick them slow and just stare at your man. Do I really have to elaborate on a conclusion after these gestures? LOL

#2
Body Language
Don't talk just walk the walk. Whether you are out and about or inside the house with your boo, when you are sure you have his attention approach him from a distance with Tip #1 and add a slow stroll to it. Begin to approach him with a sexy stride. Give him BODY baby! Exaggerate every movement. Work them hips from side to side, move from your core and strut like a goddess. Before you get to close simple stop and smile seductively.

#3
Tongue Action
Men pay attention to the movements of your mouth. They may not always give a damn about the words coming out it though lol. I promise ladies, words are NOT always needed. You can wrap your man around your finger without 1 word said. Randomly sit beside your man at any given moment and seductively run your index finger across your bottom lip slowly. Softly bit down on the on the tip and insert a little more in your mouth. By this time he should be frozen in place with his mouth open so you might as well go in for the kill, close your eyes, act like your the only 1 in the room and BLOWPOP your finger if you know what I mean lol. Trust me after this performance he is going to be snatching you up and heading to the bedroom.
This tip is also fun and freaky to do with a few juicy cherries.


#4
Trigger Spots
Get to know your man's trigger spots. I call them trigger spots because if you touch it right then his gun is sure to go POP POP! On most men these areas are the same.
The front of his neck: When kissing him pay special attention to the area right where the Adam's apple is located. Kiss it passionately from top to bottom and when it gets a little damp from the moisture of your lips, blow it to add a cool senstation to the heat that's already being shared between the two of you. Another trigger spot is the nipples. I don't care what a man says they love their nipples fondled! Lick his nipples right and you will send shock waves through your man's body, command his attention with the tricks your tongue is giving his areolas. The ultimate trigger spot is his manly beast. Pay attention to any and everywhere around his manhood and brace yourself for a shootout honey!

#5
Anticipation
Teasing your man can be oh so tantalizing. Periodically throughout the day text your man naughty messages. This is sure to set the tone before you lovebirds get home. You can take it a step further and send him pictures of you in sexy revealing poses while at work. Now don't get crazy, you have to take these picture in private lol. Go in the damn bathroom girl. Get creative and tap into your inner sex kitten and text him exactly what he can expect later. This is a sure way to have your man's full attention even with you being miles away.


Now Take these tips and go turn your man on ladies!! Have fun!

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It ain't Worth It

I'm sitting here listening to R&B singer Tank's song "It Aint Worth". It's one of my favorite songs, wait let me stop lying....Everything this man does is MY FAVORITE!! Lol ya'll know I'm his number 1 Fan. Ok back to the subject, those lyrics are deep as hell I swear. The vocal arrangement always makes me cry. Damn Tank you stay speaking the truth boo.

The song basically talks about the stupid things people do in relationships that aint worth losing their partner over. It's like people know damn well that some things they do could possibly leave their ass SINGLE then they find themselves crying, begging and saying "Please don't Go".


I'm not perfect and I've learned this lesson to. Sometimes a wake-up call for you in the midst of you having a blast with your stupidity is your partner threatening to leave. Can you see life without this person that you are taking for granted? If not, your best bet is to straighten up. As humans we often fall victim to thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. We get caught up in the portraits of fictitious lives that people 'want' us to see. In doing so you also run the risk of losing the things that you 'know' are real such as good relationships.

Some shyt just ain't Worth it. Don't risk your "fo-sho" shyt over some "maybe-so" Shyt.

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How to KEEP him

Ladies.....everyday women come up to me and ask me how do I maintain such a great relationship with my man. It's amazing how people say they can "feel" the love that me and him share with each other. Are there tricks to maintaing a well balanced relationship? Is there a way to consistently keep things interesting?

Indeed there is beauties!! There are a ton of things you can work on together but today I'm going to let you in on 5 ways to "Keep" him. Here we go.....




1. Keep your friendship first
Keep the friendship at the forefront of your relationship! Men come and go but friends are forever. With a solid foundation as "friends" you automatically put your relationship into a category that most people won't expierence. They won't expierence it because the relationship probably won't last that long. Friends can talk about anything and work through anything. Friends know how important respect is and RESPECT goes a longggggg way in any type of relationship. Friends are considerate of one another's feelings and always do what they can to keep each other happy. Happiness is something that we ultimately desire.

2. Don't be predictable
If you want a boring relationship then be predictable. A man that knows your every move may just lose interest because men like spice. I'm not saying be a magician and do disappearing acts and crazy isssh...but sometimes randomness in your day to day activities is neccesary. When you enter into a comfort zone things become traditional so think outside the box. Some men associate being predictable with not caring because you are making no effort in doing things different. If you are predictable your partner can be distracted because he's always going to know what is coming next.

3. Challenge your man
Don't say yes to everythanggggggg, damn have your own mind. A woman with a backbone is sexiii!! Don't get this confused with being combative. Let your man lead because he is the alpha male in your union but be a strong pillar that he can lean on if the road gets rough. Challenge him to become a better man! Challenge his mind and his train of thought. Give him things to ponder on every now and then and you do this by showing him new things that are beneficial to him.

4. Get your Own!
Girlllll you better have your own life! Everything that "you are" should NOT and let me repeat---SHOULD NOT evolve around your man! Do not make the mistake of losing yourself in your guy because you will not be able to function without him and no man likes a women to be hanging off his coat-tail 24/7. Have your own assets and investments. Have your own identity! Be a force to be recken with all by yourself!

5. Add to your Man!
Woooo Lawd, a woman who can double the worth of her man's empire is a woman who is not easily replaced! Whether he is an entrepreneur or a 9-5 guy, If you can get money with your man you automatically add value to your position in the relationship. Just like women like security and stability in relationships, men do to. Knowing that you can stand on your own two feet is sexxi ladies!!


These 5 tips are a lot of work ladies. We are all a work in progress and no one is perfect so understand that everyday is not going to be easy. As long as you and your partner have a clear understanding of what it takes to please one another then you have a great recipe for a lasting relationship. The moment that one of you stop caring is the moment that you may need to reevaluate why you two are even together in the first place.

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Coping with Pain

Life doesn't come with a "how-to" manual but life's experiences teach us how to deal with certain issues should they ever arise again. Pain is an emotion that we all are familiar with but are we all able to "cope" with it? Is there an easy way?

Some say time heals all wounds. Some say you should avoid situations that could potentially cause you emotional harm. Well we all know that somethings are beyond our control and if you're not psyshic and you can't see the future then you can't always 'avoid' certain situations. Some things are going to just happen that will ROCK u to the core. At that point you have no choice but to embrace it. Deal wit it. Let those tears flow. Then simply Let Go.

It sounds easier said than done but it is doable and that's a fact. Don't carry baggage around longer than you need to because it may cause stress. Stress is not good for the human body and is known for taking good people to an early grave. You have to learn to let some things go.

What are some things you can do to help you cope with pain?
I always tell people to first OWN IT for what it is. That's the only way you can start the healing process. Don't sugar coat it. Don't dress it up nice and pretty, you have to just recognize it for what it is because identifying the problem is the quickest way to work towards a solution.

Next, you have to release the pain. Cry it out, talk it out, take that weight off your shoulders by laying the issue flat out on the table and exposing it. You can't keep throwing a rug over trash and think that's the way to clean it up. Just because you cover it up doesn't mean that it goes away. RELEASE that pain!

After the hard part is over, now it's time to GET OVER IT! Start to occupy your mind with other activities. When you are busy you won't have time to wallow in your pity. We have all heard the expression "OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND". Before you know it you will be emotionally free. It definitely won't come overnight but you will know when that wound has healed over your heart. It probably will be when you least expect it.

Free your mind and the rest will follow, you have nothing to lose in this life BUT Everything to Gain...try to following these small tips when coping with pain.

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Sex Language

What's your Sex Language?

Don't you know that in order for you to be completely satisfied you have to communicate your Sex Language to your partner. Women sometimes drop the ball (no pun intended) in this area because we fear the consequences. "Maybe he will get mad". "He may not want to be with me anymore". "He's going to think he's not doing a good job".

We come up with a million reasons why we won't open our mouth and tell our partners how to please us. At the end of the love making session we are the ones missing out if you are too afraid to communicate how you "like it". No need to be scared because if your partner is not willing to please you then there's really no point in laying with them anyway!! If they are all for "self" then let them make love to themselves!!

Are you a talker? Do you like it rough? Are you are sensual lover? Where's your G-Spot? Have you ever had an orgasm? What areas on your body drive you crazy? Are there areas on your body that you want left ALONE? What's your limit? What won't you do? Do you like to cuddle afterwards? Do you enjoy 4 play? Is "oral" a requirement? Are you a minute man? Do you enjoy quickies? Are you a spontaneous lover that like it ANYWHERE...kitchen counter, bedroom floor, back seat in the whip...etc?

It's not what we say, it's "how" we say it. You can effectively communicate with your mate during dinner, movies on the couch night, in the car on the way to the store or WHEREVER you two have that awkward moment of silence when you don't have nothing else to talk about anyway!! I bet this will FOR SURE open up a few hours of dialogue between the two of you LOL!!

Sex Language!! U better Try it!

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Stimulation

Stimulation: the act of arousing an organism to action.
Whoaaa The power of Stimulation!! If you possess the power to arouse an individual into action you can have just about ANYTHING you desire! The definition is powerful in itself and self explanatory. I'm a person that needs constant stimulation, that's what I give so that's what I seek. Stimulation is equivalent to Motivation in my book.

If you can stimulate my mind then you can move my body and if you move my body you may conquer my heart, IF you conquer my heart, you may connect with my soul. Nothing is more powerful than Mind Control. You need to understand that when you learn the art of seduction and master it you will have your mate forever connected to you. Even if they stray, NOONE will be able to compare to the Love you dish out so they will always come back BUT only if you want them back.

To posses this Art you first must posses a bundle of confidence. Confidence is key!! People are intimated by confidence because this is where so many others are lacking. You have this and you are one step ahead of the rest. As you mature and get older you will see how important this is. Physical stimulation is only temporary. Mental stimulation lasts forever!

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The Perfect Wedding

What's your ideal wedding?

Every little girl's dream is to have a gorgeous wedding surrounded by loved ones, the families and friends....
Right? Maybe not...

I never really got the point of having a lavish, over the top, exclusive wedding just to show off for your peeps. I didn't understand why people would want to waste hard earned money for other's to witness THEIR commitment in 'Love'. I was always the type that would rather use those funds to honeymoon and pamper one another, I didn't want to waste it away on "showcasing" my vows.

Hmmmm interesting right? Actually I never saw the big deal of a big wedding until recently. I guess I'm getting older and more mature. Now when I think about the "perfect" wedding I think about gazing into my partner's eyes on a beautiful costal beach with simple but elegant decorations and just enough family and friends to keep the mood intimate. I think about the peaceful open atmosphere of a beach that's not confined by walls, rules or religion. I think about the sounds of the waves crashing and the gentle breeze blowing up my wedding dress. I'm even bold enough to wear all white again lol. The pureness in my white will represent the pureness in the Love I have for my spouse. I think about the warm sand in between my manicured toes as I walk slowly towards my soon-to-be. I think about a Live pianist playing and singing softly as my close friends smile at me and choke back tears in their bridesmaid attire. I think about my soon-to-be standing there looking at me in amazement as the groomsmen dap him up in agreement.

I think about sharing a moment of Love with the ones I love...

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These Eyes

What do I see through these eyes?

Things I don't agree with, somethings I will never understand, things I don't approve of and other's I can't comprehend.

In my 28 years I have witnessed first hand how cruel this world can be but IRONICALLY...

I've also witnessed and felt true Love.

I'm a true sucker for love. I'm in love with being in love but I love the raw form of it. I don't agree with forced attraction and imitation affection...I need that Real ishh!! That when I look at you my panties get wet, that when I hear you, my knees get weak, that-when you touch me my eyes roll in the back of my head and I began to see Stars.... I'm talking about Real, Raw, Pure, Uncut, Bonafide LOVE!

Can Ya'll feel Me???

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You can't force Chemistry

As I stand beside this reflection of myself...I turn to the mirror and ask "Are you a Dream Girl?"

How do you know if you have what it takes to settle down, become a one man's woman and make a good man happy. It takes a certain level of chemistry to formulate a good productive relationship. The levels have to equal on both sides. You can't have one person giving their all and the other person just sitting back taking, taking, taking, and absorbing on the goodness.

It's almost impossible to have a functioning relationship if that good ole chemistry is not present. That's why some people just become sex buddies without the benefit of a flourishing relationship. There are NO sparks outside of sex between them. I've been there done that and it's an empty feeling. It gets boring quick even if the sex is good because ultimately you do want somebody to "Love".

One thing about Chemistry is you absolutely cannot force it! It's either present or it's not! It's aggravating to some extent because if you know you are dealing with a good guy/girl and the connection is not there you feel like "WTF". Why can't we fall blissfully in love, why is there no electricity between us? Why don't we mesh or fit? Welp guys...sorry to break the news but you got to recognize when some things are just temporary and not permanent. Some things are simply not meant to be.

You can't force chemistry my friends.

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A Dose of Your Own Medicine

People can't take the bullsh*t they dish out. A dose of your own Medicine doesn't taste to good.

When you are constantly on the giving end of B.S. you don't feel the jabs, the gut punches and the wounds that you are dishing out. You can't see yourself. It's not until someone holds a mirror in front of you and put you on the receiving end of f*ckery that you suddenly find room to be "offended". Hmmmmm. How can you even be offended when you are always the one being inconsiderate of others feelings? You ever heard the saying "Do unto others what you want done unto you? Has that gone out the window? Don't you know that everything in life comes back around full circle?

Men are notorious for this. They feel like they can get away with doing and saying anything and you are suppose you just be there to either overlook or forgive and forget. Ladies start giving them a dose of their own medicine. You can't be nice all the time...sometimes you gotta be "Nice Nasty" for a nigg to take you serious. If they don't like it then so be it! Your not a door mat for people to just walk all over you. If you don't stand up for you then don't expect noone else to!

Start handing out full Dosages!

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Is that right?

I read something online while browsing the web that was so profound I had to revisit it.

And I quote:
"Ladies it doesn't matter if U his 'main chick' or 'side chick'...if U not his 1 and only then u don't really matter that much to him".....

I saw that statement and had to sit the hell down for a second! That statement is "truer" than most people would like to admit. Some people don't recognize the truth until it slaps them in the face.

Let's break that statement down into sections.
First part: "Main chick or side chick".
Neither one really matters for real because yo ass can still be replaced. A wise man once told me if you are not married then your ass is single LOL. There is no in between. I laughed at that because what he said was bold and obvious. Soooo don't make someone your world that still hasn't made you a priority because as long as your finger is bare as the day you were born then yo ass is still an OPTION!
He said when you are going to fill out an app for something important and it asks are you....
~Married
~Single
~Divorced
You NEVAAAAAA see "who do you GO wit?" on the app because "who you GO wit" is NOT important and never will be therefore whether you are a main chick or side chick, if don't got papers on dat...then YOU SINGLE!

Next part: "One and ONLY"
Huh? What? One and who?? People still do that??? LOL! Uhhh yeah!! That's when you know somebody is completely down for you when you SEE that you are their all in all. Notice I typed "SEE" in all caps because talk is cheap and most niggas just be wasting hot air, they look better putting their money where their mouth is so instead of listening to these clowns you better off just LOOKING!

Third Part:
Let me play Devil's Advocate for a second because for such a controversial statement it's necessary. The quote says If you are not his one and only then you don't matter much. I pride myself on being able to look at situations from both sides and step outside the box and I've seen this situation time and time again. Some people would disagree with the third part of the quote because they actually do care about their mate but still step out of the relationship for other reasons. When some people cheat it really has nothing to do with their mate, it's actually something that they themselves are lacking and is in search of that makes them stray. You know exactly what you need and if you are not getting it then you go look else where.

Some men have the perfect woman and still cheat and vice versa. You can't stop a person from infidelity because people gonna do what they want to do. Don't rely on anyone else to keep it real with you...If you are real with yourself then nothing niggas do will shock or stop you.

Is that right? Ya damn right it is

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