Just Relax!

Rest & Relaxation

The BEST way to deal with stress is rest & relaxation! Take a chill pill! 

Relaxation will decrease the harmful effects of stress on your mind and body so it's perfectly ok to have a lazy day every now and then. Treat yourself to doing "nothing" at all sometime! Stress is a silent killer and if you don't learn to put some things down and learn to put some duties to the side, you will let stress kill you! Stress has even been linked to health problems such as cancer. It is important to be proactive when it comes to your overall state of well-being, after all if you are not good then you won't be good to anything around you. 

Learn some relaxation techniques! Basic relaxation techniques are easy and fun.

Meditate... Get lost in peaceful and tranquil thoughts… Practice deep breathing exercises. 

'"Sometimes Nothing to do is simply
a Blessing in itself. Just Relax"

How Does Relaxation physically help the body?

Studies show that getting your fare share of rest can…

• slow down your heart rate and breathing rate, lower the blood pressure, increase blood flow to major muscles, reduce pain and tension, improve overall mental stability and aids in reducing anger and frustration.

In other words just CHILL OUT!  Get some personal time in with yourself and for that moment in time, remember that nothing else matters. If you don't take care of "you", you really can't expect anyone else to. 

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Celebrity Hair

Hair makes the Difference!!

It's amazing how hair and makeup can take a Plain Jane from forgettable and boring to star studded and stunning!
Your hair is one of the first things people notice about you. This is my current style and I'm so in love with it. My natural hair color is jet black, yes honey JET BLACK. The added virgin Brazilian inches sewn-in gives me an exotic look. Or maybe it's the Apache in me I don't know lol, whatever it is I'm OWNING it and beauties all around me want in! Everywhere I go people ask me who does my hair, or what kind of hair is this. Welp there you have it, it's 22inches of jet black Virgin Brazilian and it is not sold in stores.
Hair is an investment and I need hair that is going to be done with little maintenance daily. This Brazilian hair is soft and lasts me about 3 months. From the day it's installed until the day I remove it, the hair maintains it's lusture and tangle-free softness AND the hair is completely re-useable. You can get about 2-3 installs out of Brazilian hair.

Brazilian Hair Facts

Official Brazilian hair should be guaranteed 100% human with NO synthetic fibers. There is nothing more disappointing than finding a few strands of synthetic fibers in high priced hair. Oh Hellllll no!!!
Brazilian hair is 'virgin' meaning it has been collected from a donor. With that said you have to be conscience of the wave patterns being slightly different each time. The care that was given to the hair when it was first collected from the donor is very important so purchasing from a reputable site/company is the best way to ensure you are getting healthy and gorgeous hair.
Virgin Hair Cuticles should be layered to face the same direction from root to end at the time of wefting which helps prevent tangling. Weft extensions offer versatility in styling.
You will need about 8oz (2bundles/packs) for styles up to 16 inches in length and 12oz (3bundles/packs) for styles up to 24inches. The longer the hair the more bundles you will need to purchase.

Store Brand Hair Facts

Most human hair sold at your local beauty supply and hair stores have undergone a cuticle-stripping process. This process of removing the cuticle layor is done using harsh acidic chemicals that leave the hair dry and lifeless with strands that do not look or feel natural. Next a weight-less silicone based product is placed over the stripped cuticles to give the hair a processed shine and smooth appearance. Please believe that this is just an "appearance" because as soon as the silicone wears off your processed hair will become dull, nappy, mated and will easily tangle. Please stay away from the cheap stuff ladies. You get what you pay for!

Royal Beauty Recommendations

Anyone can obtain beautiful Celebrity Hair! You have to be willing to depart with a few extra coins and invest. In the long run you will see that your investment will turn into huge savings because good quality hair is reusable and stays beautiful 10X times longer.
Sites I recommend are:
Kaizenvirginhair.bigcartel.com (Reputable Virginia, USA vendor operated out of Hampton, VA)
and
belladreamhair.com (Reputable African-American Owned International vendor)

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New Workout Routine

Working out isn't an activity that I enjoy but I know it is necessary for a healthy life. Since it's not something I enjoy it's important to me that I keep my routine NEW so that I don't get bored with it!

Over the last few years I have noticed that I'm a bit heavier
than I prefer. When I was younger I was a toothpick lol. After the birth of my son I bounced between a size 7/8 and after my daughter was born I was a size 10/12 and this is where I have been since. Depending on the cut of the jeans I purchase I'm even an 11 in some brands. Ain't that some sh*t!!! LOL

I know, I know, I don't look like it but I'm tall and I'm solid so I wear it well. In some of my photos I've noticed areas of concern that I wanted to work on and overall I just needed to lose a few pounds.

I'm not motivated by the gym so I dare not tell that lie lol! Forget about expensive equipment or workout clothes. For me, dancing is cheap, fun and convenient. All you need is some good music and possibly a few shots of your favorite vodka LOL. When I'm tipsy I dance harder and longer. Alcohol is considered liquid calories but hell you're about to dance it off anyway so you might as well have fun.

People come up to me all the time now and say "Vee you lost weight, are you working out?" Dance fitness is my workout. When I step into a nightspot I'm ready to Werkkkk lol!! I'm ready to dance. Arms swinging, feet moving, hips rocking, booty bouncing, sweat dripping...I'm getting it in, you can't tell a sista that I'm not in a music video!

Increased energy levels improves circulation, tones muscles and strengthens bones. These things lead to increased endurance and flexibility. Dancing burns just as many calories as other exercises and relieves stress and tension.

I know I'm getting a total body workout because I'm always sore days later. Everything from my core to my thighs are burning and achy and sensitive to the touch. I love it. If your goal is to burn calories and lose weight, you need to do it often and dance at a pace that is just beyond your comfort level. You got to work it like a vixen!
It's the type of workout where you forget that you're actually working out because it's so much fun!

Dance of the Pounds my beauties and keep your workout NEW!!

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How to KEEP him

Ladies.....everyday women come up to me and ask me how do I maintain such a great relationship with my man. It's amazing how people say they can "feel" the love that me and him share with each other. Are there tricks to maintaing a well balanced relationship? Is there a way to consistently keep things interesting?

Indeed there is beauties!! There are a ton of things you can work on together but today I'm going to let you in on 5 ways to "Keep" him. Here we go.....




1. Keep your friendship first
Keep the friendship at the forefront of your relationship! Men come and go but friends are forever. With a solid foundation as "friends" you automatically put your relationship into a category that most people won't expierence. They won't expierence it because the relationship probably won't last that long. Friends can talk about anything and work through anything. Friends know how important respect is and RESPECT goes a longggggg way in any type of relationship. Friends are considerate of one another's feelings and always do what they can to keep each other happy. Happiness is something that we ultimately desire.

2. Don't be predictable
If you want a boring relationship then be predictable. A man that knows your every move may just lose interest because men like spice. I'm not saying be a magician and do disappearing acts and crazy isssh...but sometimes randomness in your day to day activities is neccesary. When you enter into a comfort zone things become traditional so think outside the box. Some men associate being predictable with not caring because you are making no effort in doing things different. If you are predictable your partner can be distracted because he's always going to know what is coming next.

3. Challenge your man
Don't say yes to everythanggggggg, damn have your own mind. A woman with a backbone is sexiii!! Don't get this confused with being combative. Let your man lead because he is the alpha male in your union but be a strong pillar that he can lean on if the road gets rough. Challenge him to become a better man! Challenge his mind and his train of thought. Give him things to ponder on every now and then and you do this by showing him new things that are beneficial to him.

4. Get your Own!
Girlllll you better have your own life! Everything that "you are" should NOT and let me repeat---SHOULD NOT evolve around your man! Do not make the mistake of losing yourself in your guy because you will not be able to function without him and no man likes a women to be hanging off his coat-tail 24/7. Have your own assets and investments. Have your own identity! Be a force to be recken with all by yourself!

5. Add to your Man!
Woooo Lawd, a woman who can double the worth of her man's empire is a woman who is not easily replaced! Whether he is an entrepreneur or a 9-5 guy, If you can get money with your man you automatically add value to your position in the relationship. Just like women like security and stability in relationships, men do to. Knowing that you can stand on your own two feet is sexxi ladies!!


These 5 tips are a lot of work ladies. We are all a work in progress and no one is perfect so understand that everyday is not going to be easy. As long as you and your partner have a clear understanding of what it takes to please one another then you have a great recipe for a lasting relationship. The moment that one of you stop caring is the moment that you may need to reevaluate why you two are even together in the first place.

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Great Friends, Great Times

My past few weekends have been consecutively awesome!!
Looking forward to the weekend is something many working professionals do. When you dedicate your work week to the grind, when Friday rolls around you suddenly feel like sliding allllllll that to the side and getting wild. In my case, crazy wild!!
I really don't be giving 5 damns who watching, who talking, who judging, who hating...if you watching me I'm gonna give you what you are wishing for!!




I get a kick out of people watching me get loose because I don't care what people think. No ignorance involved at all, you DON'T have to act a plum fool to enjoy yourself. I work hard so I play hard. I'm so comfortable in my own skin that it's ridiculous. When I step out my number 1 goal is having an amazing time. I love to dance and drink and the combination of the two is always EPIC LOL.


This weekend's celebration was in honor of a few birthday's. My circle is getting old, aging and like wine, getting better with time. I'm happy to have such positive, inspirational and goal-orientated women in my life. We truly compliment one another on a professional level and in our personal lives. I especially appreciate being amongst friends of different professional genres. I really don't prefer being around folks that do the exact same sh*t I do, market saturation--"that's that sh*t I don't like! *Chief Keith voice* LOL!!


Anywho, Catch 31 on the Virginia Beach Oceanfront was the dining venue of choice Saturday and you really get what you pay for as far of the atmosphere is concerned. The scenery is truly beautiful. For me it really gives me a Miami feel. Grown and sexy isshhh. The beach breeze, tropical drinks, weave blowing in the wind, sundress, oversized sunshades is all I need to set my mind free.

Great friends, great times---what more can you ask for?

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Support those that support You!

When you have good friends, it's important that you show them how much you appreciate their presence in your life.

I do believe that you are not deserving of good friends unless you are a good friend yourself!! Being a good person overall takes daily practice and there isn't a perfect soul walking this earth so of course you are not going to be above flaws however a genuine heart goes a long way.

My aries personality is so "giving". If I got it then the people close to me got it to! I will "share" my last and depending on how I feel I "may" just give it to you lol. Listen I'm being honest, why would you take my last? Lol can we share? Damn! Anywho, I love to be the reason that someone smiles. Making someone's day is very rewarding to me. I do random anonymous gestures all the time because it's the recognition that pleasures me, it's the priceless feeling of knowing that I may have been the highlight of someone's day that I just LOVE!!

Be a good friend and Support those that support You!

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U Betta Werk it Girl!

Focus....It's so necessary!
OMG!! The springtime is here! How close are you to your 2012 goals? Half the year is gone! If you aren't on it then get to it!!

I had to have a little talk with myself (yes I talk to myself and I'M NOT crazy) to get back on track! Sometimes you are just drained right? Well the only thing that comes to a sleeper is a dream. If you want to turn those dreams into a reality then you got to get moving and STAY FOCUSED!! You Betta Werkkkkk it Girl!!!

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Learn How to Check Yourself

Over the years I've have grown to really know how to check myself.

Sometimes I'm wrong as two left shoes but I'm also good at recognizing when I need to humble myself, correct the situation and say "Im Sorry".
It's something about saying "I'm Sorry" that's a little more personal than "I apologize". Chastisement doesn't ever feel good but it's so necessary. When you grow and mature you get to a point where you don't have to wait to be corrected, you correct yourself.

We are not perfect and perfection is something that we won't accomplish on earth, however everybody has a part of them that can be better. Learn how to check yourself.

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Spoil Yourself!

Who's guilty of "all work and no play"?

I don't want to live in a world where you can't enjoy the beauty in it!! Really, who wants to live just to work?! People really get caught up in bills and forget that life is NOT about a check to check, "who do I got to pay next", mentality. I feel sorry for people that never seem to have enough to spoil themselves because every dime they have coming in is also going out to collectors.

That's messed up to me seriously! It's overwhelming and depressing. You should be able to wine and dine yourself whenever you get ready and you don't have to be rich to do so! You can enjoy yourself whether you are making $8/hr or $80/hr. You just have to live within your means and find the best way to save a few dollars here and there. When making purchases the first thing I do is look for coupons. Whether online or in-store I first research a money saving deal out there that would allow me to pocket a few bucks. You can simply google a coupon for the store, product or service you are intending on using and usually there's always one available.

Just remember this....on the day God decides to call you home you want to be looking up at the sky saying "I enjoyed my time here" so do yourself a pleasurable favor and don't forget to SPOIL YOURSELF!

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It's the Beginning

The first day of the new year is always such a great day.

Kinda feels like good luck doesn't it? Feels like a fresh start! It's a reason to remind yourself of your blessing and find reasons to improve. New Year, New Resolutions, Re-Newed focus. So much positivity, everybody is in a great mood. I love it!

This is year I have no choice but to grind harder than never before. I have nothing holding me back from getting up and going as a please so I have to make good use of my time and produce results. I'm looking forward to accomplishing more than I did last year which by the way was also a great year for me. Now I need to re-construct my vision board and get another step closer to my goals. My goal list is healthy this year!

Ok so repeat after me: "No Distractions, No negativity:! Anything that's not lifting you up is holding you down so surround yourself with people and things that aim to elevate you!!

Happy New Year!

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Coping with Pain

Life doesn't come with a "how-to" manual but life's experiences teach us how to deal with certain issues should they ever arise again. Pain is an emotion that we all are familiar with but are we all able to "cope" with it? Is there an easy way?

Some say time heals all wounds. Some say you should avoid situations that could potentially cause you emotional harm. Well we all know that somethings are beyond our control and if you're not psyshic and you can't see the future then you can't always 'avoid' certain situations. Some things are going to just happen that will ROCK u to the core. At that point you have no choice but to embrace it. Deal wit it. Let those tears flow. Then simply Let Go.

It sounds easier said than done but it is doable and that's a fact. Don't carry baggage around longer than you need to because it may cause stress. Stress is not good for the human body and is known for taking good people to an early grave. You have to learn to let some things go.

What are some things you can do to help you cope with pain?
I always tell people to first OWN IT for what it is. That's the only way you can start the healing process. Don't sugar coat it. Don't dress it up nice and pretty, you have to just recognize it for what it is because identifying the problem is the quickest way to work towards a solution.

Next, you have to release the pain. Cry it out, talk it out, take that weight off your shoulders by laying the issue flat out on the table and exposing it. You can't keep throwing a rug over trash and think that's the way to clean it up. Just because you cover it up doesn't mean that it goes away. RELEASE that pain!

After the hard part is over, now it's time to GET OVER IT! Start to occupy your mind with other activities. When you are busy you won't have time to wallow in your pity. We have all heard the expression "OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND". Before you know it you will be emotionally free. It definitely won't come overnight but you will know when that wound has healed over your heart. It probably will be when you least expect it.

Free your mind and the rest will follow, you have nothing to lose in this life BUT Everything to Gain...try to following these small tips when coping with pain.

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Stimulation

Stimulation: the act of arousing an organism to action.
Whoaaa The power of Stimulation!! If you possess the power to arouse an individual into action you can have just about ANYTHING you desire! The definition is powerful in itself and self explanatory. I'm a person that needs constant stimulation, that's what I give so that's what I seek. Stimulation is equivalent to Motivation in my book.

If you can stimulate my mind then you can move my body and if you move my body you may conquer my heart, IF you conquer my heart, you may connect with my soul. Nothing is more powerful than Mind Control. You need to understand that when you learn the art of seduction and master it you will have your mate forever connected to you. Even if they stray, NOONE will be able to compare to the Love you dish out so they will always come back BUT only if you want them back.

To posses this Art you first must posses a bundle of confidence. Confidence is key!! People are intimated by confidence because this is where so many others are lacking. You have this and you are one step ahead of the rest. As you mature and get older you will see how important this is. Physical stimulation is only temporary. Mental stimulation lasts forever!

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I'm a Thinker

Sometimes I just want to turn down the volume in my brain. My thoughts are non-stop and when they are dealing with issues that don't seem to be working out in my favor, I can't let the thoughts go.

It's part of my Aries nature. We are naturally competitive. When we are not in full control of a situation and we are not winning our minds automatically go into "conquer mode". We hate to feel defeated. It's hard for me to see when somethings just need to be "let go" as opposed to "going to war" with it. Everything doesn't have to be a battle. The worst thing I can do to myself when my thoughts are getting the best of me is NOTHING. I've said this countless times before...."An idle mind is the devils playground". If I don't get up and occupy my time and energy with something else then I tend to dwell on things.

I guess we all are a little guilty of thinking too much. It would be nice if life came with a remote and we had access to a fast-forward button. Until then...Let me go an occupy my time so I can free my mind.

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The Strength of a Black Woman

I love being a Black Woman. I love being me. I have a whole lot of energy and a very free spirit. I'm so far outside the box that many times I'm misunderstood. Sometimes I maybe a little too much but I'm so easy to Love. I'm a person that won't tolerate a mood swingy, up and down personality so I try to be the same person all day everyday however everyday is not a walk in the park and excessive smiles. I'm saying that to say this IT'S NOT EASY BEING A BLACK WOMAN.

It's so easy for us to be feisty because of all the shit we have to put up with. We don't necessarily have access to bailouts from our poverty stricken families to take the load of life off our shoulders so it's common for us to be frustrated. The things we tend to put up with, with our black men is another thing that has us border line crazy. How many times do we have to have our hearts broken before we become emotionless. How many days do we have to raise these children without their fathers before our patience is completely destroyed. How many times do we have to be overlooked for that position at work that we over qualify for before feeling unappreciated. IT'S NOT EASY BEING A BLACK WOMAN.

There's nothing sexier than a strong black man but since we out number them 8-1, because it seems to be more of them locked up in prison or in and out of the criminal justice revolving door, so WE must possess that strength. The strength to smile when we are sad, the strength to speak calm when we are mad. The strength to keep going when we can no longer see the lighted path before us. The strength to befriend our enemies. The strength to build when everything around us is pulling us down. The strength to LOVE when we are not being loved back. The strength to still carry our families when the ground beneath us is crumbling and weak.

There's so much STRENGTH in the BLACK WOMAN. Who the hell said it was going to be easy? What doesn't kill us makes us stronger right? I AM WOMAN-HEAR ME ROAR!

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Beauty Day wit Vee

On October 30th I kicked off my "MakeMeOva" Beauty and Flawlessness Sessions where young ladies and women register to come and gain some Diva knowledge, 101 MakeUp Tips, Beauty Tips and all of my Cosmetic secrets. These sessions are very interactive and informative. I require that my attendees take notes and others actually practice the techniques I teach on the spot!! We laugh, learn and network.
My classes are broken up into 3 separate sessions and each one goes deeper into depth on the Beauty Industry. It's easy to see how passionate I am about my work because I get so excited about it. I love to treat my students to beauty freebies and makeup gifts to those who are actually bold enough to practice the techniques I'm teaching in the class. My reward in return are their smiles. I remember how thrilled I was learning new cosmetic tips when the interest sparked my attention years ago. Since then, I have a controlled obsession with it lol.


To add more punch to the class I invite some of my favorite brand builders to come in and share their products with my guests. It's important for me to include the representatives of the everyday brands I actually use in my sessions because they can give a more detailed background on the things I consider essential in daily beauty. I offer my honest reviews and lots of tips to enhance these products. In my Oct 30th session I invited Monique Diamond from Moliciouz Lipz Lip Gloss, Marquita Bianca from Leg Lovers, Mrs. Serena from Serenity Designs and Tiquerra Brown from BowTied Divaz. My guests fell in love with each of their product lines and I was please that they actually made some sales:)

Overall it was a GREAT turnout and my next session will be in December with the exact day TBD...so stay tuned:)

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My Favorite MakeUp Tutorials

Dramatic


Natural Beauty


Smokey Eye

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The Perfect Wedding

What's your ideal wedding?

Every little girl's dream is to have a gorgeous wedding surrounded by loved ones, the families and friends....
Right? Maybe not...

I never really got the point of having a lavish, over the top, exclusive wedding just to show off for your peeps. I didn't understand why people would want to waste hard earned money for other's to witness THEIR commitment in 'Love'. I was always the type that would rather use those funds to honeymoon and pamper one another, I didn't want to waste it away on "showcasing" my vows.

Hmmmm interesting right? Actually I never saw the big deal of a big wedding until recently. I guess I'm getting older and more mature. Now when I think about the "perfect" wedding I think about gazing into my partner's eyes on a beautiful costal beach with simple but elegant decorations and just enough family and friends to keep the mood intimate. I think about the peaceful open atmosphere of a beach that's not confined by walls, rules or religion. I think about the sounds of the waves crashing and the gentle breeze blowing up my wedding dress. I'm even bold enough to wear all white again lol. The pureness in my white will represent the pureness in the Love I have for my spouse. I think about the warm sand in between my manicured toes as I walk slowly towards my soon-to-be. I think about a Live pianist playing and singing softly as my close friends smile at me and choke back tears in their bridesmaid attire. I think about my soon-to-be standing there looking at me in amazement as the groomsmen dap him up in agreement.

I think about sharing a moment of Love with the ones I love...

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Your Beauty Runs Skin Deep

No matter how much makeup you wear, the designer clothes you purchase won't validate you, the money in your bank account could never make you more appealing because BEAUTY will forever be skin deep.

This is a fact that will never be proven wrong. As fine as your features are, if your attitude doesn't match then you are just ugly and it is what it is.
The most attractively challenged person can be a beauty if the personality and the purity in the heart is what's shown the most. The uniqueness in a person appearance doesn't make them ugly...some people are just different and different is good. Society has people confused on what the definition of Beauty truly is. If you don't resemble the European norm or an Exotic norm from what's portrayed on TV, the masses make you feel as if you are not pretty. When you get back to the FACTS...then the truth of the matter is, you ARE as pretty as the creation that God has designed you to be. You are MARVELOUS! You are WONDERFUL! You are FABULOUS! You are BEAUTIFUL and YOU need to believe that if you expect anyone else to.

Your Beauty Runs Skin Deep!

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What to do with Idle Time

What do you do with your Idle time?

You know they say "an Idle mind is the devil's playground". Meaning if you are not occupying your mind then you have the time to think about things that are unproductive and distracting. Don't mentally drain yourself. I personally feel bad and lazy when I sit around and do nothing. Who wants a lazy woman? Not a real man. I can't even lay in my bed too long because I feel as though I'm wasting precious time that some people didn't have the luxury of seeing.

A virtuous woman doesn't sleep past 8am is a theory I have embedded in my mind. So what do I suggest??

If your not motivated to get up then find some inspiration to get moving. Turn on some music. No one can resist their favorite song and before you know it your are up and moving. What next?

Take a look around and see what need to be changed, cleaned or fixed in your life and then get to repairing! Whether it's your career, school, friendships, your relationship or physical objects. Take care of the people and things around you that you cherish. If everything is A'OK then start planning your next move. "You better make your next move your best move" and occupy that Idle Time.

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I don't worry about things I can't change

That's me in the pic to the right testing the temp of the jacuzzi before I submerge into a day of pampering and Relaxation.

I really don't care whats going on around me, I don't care what bills are due... I always find a way to focus on peace of mind. I find time to take care of Vee. People often ask me "V, why are you always so upbeat and joyful?"

Honestly it's a mind frame. Everything starts with your thinking. I'm good at not giving a damn LOL and I'm not saying that in a negative way. I'm saying I don't let things I can't change stress me out. I mean why would u??? Especially when u can't do nothing about your situation for the time being. When I can't change it, it becomes a Non-Factor in my mind. That's how I'm able to keep a smile on my face because I don't carry the weight of the world around on my shoulders!

Sisters and brothers you have to stop doing that. It won't kill you to be happy sometimes. Don't walk around bitter, be grateful because if you have nothing else...You still have LIFE and that alone is worth smiling for :)

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