Exactly "Who's" Fault is it?

Reverse psychology--nahhh that ain't gonna work. The blame game---ummmm nahhh you can keep that one too! Flipping the script---oldest trick in the book, come better than that.

WHY is it that when you question your mate about some suspect shit on their end of the relationship they get all defensive?
Are they "in their feelings" because they are now having to explain "what it is" from "what it looks like"??
Are they "feeling some type of way" because you apparently are not suppose to be that smart and they are crowned 'Mr Perfectly Honest' and 'Mr can do no wrong' and Who the Hell are YOU to be questioning them!?
Where does this defense mechanism kick in? Well here's some advice fellas: How about you just explain the answer to the question at hand and let your lady decide if she wants to accept your answer. If she needs some time to sort out the meat from the bones then be understanding that it's NOT "her" bullshit it's yours so getting upset is not even an option for you at this time, sorry to rain on your pitty party parade! If you know you have a woman who don't be tripping over stupid stuff then understand that the bitch may have a valid reason for her present line of questioning.

I don't think it's fair for your mate to catch an attitude if you don't believe them! Are we suppose to hang on to their every word??? Only a fool would sit back and not do their due diligence in finding out the truth! Of course you want to trust your mate BUT to believe every little thing that falls from their lips for the sake of love isn't exercising common sense! I mean who's really that brain dead?? Exactly how dumb do some of these men want their ladies? You can't just be a "yes" bitch that agrees and believes it all! When you are dealing with a woman of a high caliber fellas you need to know that you can't be bringing her any ole thing!. You have to know that your shit needs to be all the way LOCKED, SCREWED AND GLUED! A smart women will not fall for the typical okie dokie! UH Hell 2 da Nahhh brother!!

So Men instead of getting defensive just try to understand the compromising situation your lady is faced with and be gentle and patient enough to help her with the facts. Remove yourself from the equation and take a step back to analyze things from her perspective. If it's "not how it looks" then you good, the truth shall set you free. Just remember to keep the attitude at bay because it's not her fault. Answer the question, calm your ass down, Move on and get back to the Love.

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Man Drama Free

Women will love your ass to the ends of this earth. When we love we love HARD! We are so emotionally in tuned to the one we love. That's our genetic makeup as a woman...to be that source for Love. For that reason we are locked into our men. His every word controls our mood. We do this unconsciously. When he's acting up it throws our whole day off. Lawd if he acting a goddamn fool, it throws our whole week off. You can't deny it. Your man is one of the single driving forces behind whether or not you are happy or sad. Some eliminate this problem by staying single, playing the field and avoiding that emotional connection all in an attempt to protect their heart. They want to be Man Drama Free.

Newsflash...You can certainly be in a relationship and be Man Drama Free. Grant it-- everyday is not going to be happy go lucky, dancing in the rain with wet kisses and warm hugs. Nahhh it's not always gonna be like the lyrics to a Love song. Sometimes you are going to go through tough times but what's important for your happiness is that those sunny days out way the storms. Your pros should out way your cons. You should be able to count 8 great days out of 10. If he's not giving you his best then don't settle for less. If he's giving you the bottom of the barrel bullshit then it's time for you to split. If he's half assing you and your needs then Bitch please...why the hell are you entertaining foolishness? You need to be Man Drama Free.

Set yourself up to be an asset not a liability. If you decide to eliminate Man Drama then he should most definitely feel the loss more than you. Make his ass think twice before bringing bullshit your way. When was the last time you have been truly satisfied??? Find you someone that's qualified! Get with someone who is going to continously make you smile:)
If you are not getting all you need...honey it's time to set yourself Free

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the mirror

Am I a bitch cuz bullshit makes my skin itch?
Am I resistant cuz we can't agree to disagree and I refuse to listen?
Am I self destructive because I'm impulsive?
Am I clinically crazy cuz my mind is not in bondage and i prefer to take risks with ideas that look explosive?
Am I suppose to stop living because I had 2kids?
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Am I a monster because my tolerance for ignorance is nonexistent??
Am I over exerting myself because my drive is persistent?
Am I out of touch because I don't dwell on my faults?
Am I not cautious because I chose to gamble at any cost?
Am I high sididdy because my representation of Royal is what I truly stand for?
Am I in competition because I refuse to be dependent and I simply wanna even the score?
Do I practice what I preach because a lot of what I teach is me really... talking to myself?
Am I prideful because I can't admit when I need help?
Am I to blame for your fortuneless fame?
Am I at fault because the truth caused us so much pain?
Am I a hypocrite because I empower the black mind to be "better" when I'm not "perfect"?
Am I suppose to be transparent because its more to me than what u see on the surface?
Am I inconsiderate because I don't give a fuck about others opinion of me?
Am I cocky because my confidence is what encourages me to over achieve?
Am I suppose to be defeated and give up my dreams because u fail to believe?
As I look n this mirror I see "ME" now u tell me, Who da hell Am I Suppose to Be???

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at the Jay Everyday Radio Station

Veronica Royal Beauty and the ladies of Diamond Royalty received a special invite from this man to the right--->
to come sit in on a talk radio session at his Brooklyn studio in New York. His name is Jay and he is the Owner of "the Jay Everyday Radio". www.thejayeveryday.com

We had the pleasure of gracing his studio with the Friday night crew!! K.L, Empress and Aries are the personalities of this late show and they are HILARIOUS!! They were as real and down to earth as it gets. We had a blast as we discussed my newly released novel entitled: "Who Said Common Sense Was Common?" and the NY D.I.V.A.S Conference that I hosted on April 16th along side my Diamond Royalty D.I.V.A.S
To say the least we had an Awesome time and we can't wait to visit again!! Salute to you Jay and your crew for the invite!

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Author Royal Beauty Veronica

Just attended the New York D.I.V.A.S Conference and it was EVERYTHANG!!
yes I said "Thang"!!! The Level of Sisterhood and Unity was at an all time high!! The event was a huge Success and everyone left the building Inspired, Motivated and Ready for Success!!! Next Stop ATL Shawty!!!!

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Yayyyyy Pre Sales Start Today!!!

Finally it's done!! the Long Awaited Novel "Who Said Common Sense Was Common" from Veronica Royal Beauty Wiggins go on sale TODAY!!!...You can purchase on www.whatsupwitv.com THE OFFICIAL BOOK WEBSITE!!

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Girl What U GOT???

One thing a women needs to understand is when you are working on "YOU", everything else will fall in line.

You are always better off when you are ESTABLISHED and everything you have, YOU hustled for...it wasn't given!! You automatically enter yourself into a higher social bracket when you are SELF MADE!!
You can have 99 problems but a nigga won't be one because nothing that man has, defines you! Not his money, not his home, not his cars, not his status...NOTHING!!
Your man should be able to compliment you in your endeavors. You should be a joint empire but how are you going to do that if you possess NOTHING???

Girl what u got???

There's noting worse than a broke, begging ass chick with no options. She can't even leave a nigga if she wanted to because everything that "she" is came from him!!
Well I be goddam!!
That should make a woman feel lower than dirt but the problem I see is that women don't seem to care. They are looking for a man that can give them everything. Ok, fine..if you find him, what are you going to do to keep him because good p*ssy come a dime a dozen!
A Made Man will always crave a Made Chick!

What I began to see in these types of women is insecurity. They are insecure because they know they don't have one thing to offer outside that p*ssy. Unless your pussy is dipped in platinum and you are pissing diamonds...sit your regular ass down somewhere and begin to work on yourself because there's POWER in having YOUR OWN!
A nigga gonna think twice before he act up and even IF he act up...YOU are still GOOD and always will be!! The peace of mind that comes with that is PRICELESS.
It's something sexy about a chick in a higher tax bracket!!
That b*tch got Authority in her Steps!!! Girl what do YOU Got???

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I can't Function

When you first meet someone and you two are going through the motions of getting to know each other, ALL you seem to do this think about them. Day in and Day out...everything you eat, sleep and breath is them, them, them. Even when you don't want to think about them you can't help it. You get a headache trying to shake thoughts of them. Every five minutes you are trying not to dial their number, you are checking your phone for missed calls and text messages.
You are trying everything in your power not to become a stalker but apparently your mind and your body are NOT cooperating.
You try to find things to do but that fails. You try to turn your phone off and force yourself to let them be and that fails. They are All you even want to talk about!!!

Ughhhhhhh!!!!! I can't function!!!!

Everyone can relate to these feelings of falling in Love and when these feelings engulf you, they really and truly consume everything that you are. I just want to breath without a thought of him!!! Argghhhhhhhhhh (screaming).

An easy solution is simply finding something more productive to do. It's a tough challenge trying to break that cycle of constantly having them on the membrane. But sometimes it's necessary to just force yourself to. You have to have a life outside of your mate. Some people even believe in "outta sight, outta mind"...but the only way that works is if you completely erase them out of your life, erasing them out of your social networking life as well. Other than that, that theory is null and void meaning: IT DON'T WORK!

These never ending thoughts of your mate can be a gift and a curse. Of course you love thinking about everything that they mean to you because it makes you feel good but damn where is the line drawn when you can't STOP thinking about them!

YOU GOT TO HAVE SOME BALANCE or You won't be able to Function

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Celebrating 10,000 Views

Wow thanks Guys!!!
Do ya'll see that!! Over 10,000 views!! That's MAJOR!!
A mini milestone on my road to my goal of being on the NY TIMES BestSeller's List! It feels good to know that you all are tuning in daily and enjoying my work and my quick reads!! I sincerely appreciate every one of you!

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It ain't that Serious

Women we are some emotional creatures.

Just about everything we do is centered around our emotions. We can't turn it off even if we wanted to. Being able to condition your mind to relax some damn time comes with maturity. As you mature into a woman, you have to learn how to NOT take things so Serious.

Every reaction doesn't warrant a response. Learn to just observe and not react so quickly. Sometimes when you feel the need to cuss a muthafucka out just breathe and think about how "its not that damn serious". When things are not quite right inside your relationship before you bite ya man head off just breathe and say again "its not that damn serious", there's no need to give that man a headache because you are "in your feelings".

Stop having an opinion about every damn thing and let a nigga wonder what you are thinking. He don't have to wonder if you always yapping ya gums! Furthermore a wise woman knows when to be quiet and take mental notes of the situation at hand. There's a time and place for everything...learn how to play your cards right and how to win with the cards you are dealt.

When you are about to reach your emotional peak...just Breathe and repeat.."It ain't that Serious"

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